YOU DON’T NEED A PURPOSE
I think we should stop being so obsessed with finding our purpose. I get that, as humans, we crave order and reliability. We love to ask questions like “why am I here?” and “what the hell am I supposed to be doing?” And we embark on this lifelong journey to achieve fulfillment by trying to find that one purpose in life. That trek is a road filled with existential crises and freak outs about our value and future.
There are a lot of resources out in the world dedicated to helping people find their purpose. They’ll tell you to fill out workbooks filled with vague questions about yourself or to just “listen to your heart” and your whole life’s worth and direction shall be determined. Then you think you’ve got a defective heart or something because it seems pretty quiet in there.
Here’s why a life purpose might not be so apparent to you:
The average millennial has been brought up in an environment where having multiple skills, interests, and passions are highly encouraged. The chances that you’ll have just one passion that you can see yourself subscribing to for the rest of your life are slim to none. If you’re having trouble finding a purpose, it most likely means you’re good at a lot of things and should dedicate yourself to pursuing excellence in all of them.
Your reason for being on this earth isn’t a treasure to discover with an invisible map, nor is your purpose something that will appear to you one day in a ball of fairy dust.
We are putting way too much weight on the idea of having a purpose. To have one grand reason for living is some pretty narrow tunnel vision right there. We are capable of so much, and I think if there was any one, true purpose, it would be to seek out all of the things we’re great at. To force ourselves to subscribe to one life journey would be selling ourselves short.
Having one purpose doesn’t really allow for growth either. In the same way that the people you might have dated as a teenager are drastically different than the ones you’re attracted to as an adult, your motivation for living and your purpose will change as you grow up. We will have numerous “purposes” throughout life, and none of them are as predictable, noticeable, or life-altering as you think they might be. We don’t need to stress about centering our lives around one thing to make it worthy or important, that is definitely not the meaning of life.
While purposes are fleeting and fragile concepts, there should be constants in our life that we can always depend on. As new passions and dreams are constantly found, you can rely on your motivation and ambition to remain strong. Where one specific purpose might be lacking, drive should always be present. That way, you can make sure that in your pursuit of making your dreams come true, you’ll reach for the stars and make sure you grab them. Whatever grand schemes your net might catch, you will always be prepared to follow through with them.
Unless your heart suddenly grows a mouth and let’s you in on what you’re supposed to be doing, don’t let anybody or anything tell you why you are here. What makes life meaningful is how eagerly you attempt to actualize the dreams you come up with and how much fun you have doing it.
-Lots of Love, Lola